From setting herself up for failure…to setting herself up for success
“I didn’t know what to expect from the coaching experience, but I knew it was time to make some changes somewhere or somehow. I was unhappy with my job; unhappy with how much time it took and how much non-work time I spent thinking and worrying about work. I thought my goal for working with a Life Coach was to find the career direction I was sure would be different from what I was in at the time.
Through coaching, I realized that my own set of personal expectations caused me to set myself up for failure. The rigorous, unreachable parameters I held for myself continued to set me back…even when I really wanted to succeed. Through trial and error, I learned that setting too many goals was overwhelming for me. It was too easy for me to throw up my arms and decide not to do any of them if I couldn’t be successful at all of them.
My focus has always been to find my weaknesses and figure out how to make them stronger. But Michelle showed me how to focus on what I do well, and it’s helped me to become a better person. Interestingly enough, I started enjoying my job again and stopped looking for something better or dreaming about what else I could be doing.
By working with Michelle, I am now able to look at what the end goal is and find smaller stepping stones that slowly lead me to the end goal…vs. looking at all the steps in front of me, which often leads to overwhelm. I learned how to give myself the permission to ‘follow the process’, and if it leads me in a different direction that I originally thought – it’s okay to deviate and enjoy the ride along the way. Sometimes the most enjoyable part of the journey is on the detours that take me off the beaten path!”
